March 8, 2021

MM | The Four F’s of Procrastination & Overcoming Them

MM | The Four F’s of Procrastination & Overcoming Them

*Episode previously recorded and released as part of Kristina Stubblefield's Genius Marketing Solutions podcast.

In this episode, Kristina talks to Clinical Psychologist, Author and Procrastination Coach, Dr. Christine Li, about becoming the master of your time and emotions by jumping off the procrastination hamster wheel!

Would you like to learn four core principles of being productive and mastering your time? Then tune into this episode to hear Kristina discuss this subject in detail with Procrastination Coach, Dr. Christine Li.

Lacking focus and feelings of overwhelm can keep us paralyzed from forward momentum. Listen to this episode to understand how we control what has our attention and how a simple mind shift and breaking things down into manageable segments can make all the difference in your productivity.

Did you know that becoming more productive is in your power to create? Don’t believe me? Then tune in to this episode to hear how you get to decide what you do with your time; you get to define your own style of productivity; you get to determine what works for you… and how something as simple as consistency will enable you to see enormous rewards and what you’re really made of!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU’LL UNDERSTAND why forgiving yourself, pushing past your fears, focusing on your purpose and allowing flow/consistency will allow you to overcome your procrastination tendencies and get you on a productivity cycle where you become the master of your time!

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Transcript

Kristina Stubblefield  0:00  
Are you a procrastinator? always putting items off on your to do list, sometimes giving in to the overwhelm? Want to become the master of your time and emotions, then this is the episode for you. I sit down with Dr. Christine Lee, clinical psychologist, author, and procrastination coach who gives several great tips to get on the productivity cycle and off the procrastination hamster wheel. Welcome to genius Marketing Solutions podcast. Hi, my name is Kristina Stubblefield. For over 15 years I've served as a marketing strategist and coach. Also, I was once a wedding vendor. In my podcast episodes, I'm providing bite sized digestible marketing solutions and information that can be immediately implemented, and make an impact on your business. Now let's dive in to this episode. Everybody, I'm so excited to share with you all the knowledge that this next guest is sharing. Let me tell you, I'm so happy that I get to call her my friend. But I better let her introduce herself because she is Dr. Christine Lee. She is a person of many talents. She is an author. She just launched a few months ago, her own podcast, make time for success. Christine, you're my friend. So I'm going to call you that. But it's Dr. Christine Lee share with my audience, who you are and everything about you.

Dr. Christine Li  1:37  
Hi, everyone. And thank you, Kristina for inviting me onto your show. I want to send back the friendship, love and all of my admiration for this woman who is the brand new host of this wonderful show and who I call the genius because I'm so impressed with all the different things that she knows. And she has to share with us And the world. I am Dr. Christine Lee, I am a clinical psychologist based in New York. And online. I've been working as the procrastination coach for almost 10 years. And I've really enjoyed this work of being able to share my own experience as a hardcore chronic procrastinator, who has made a very nice recovery from that issue. And from that syndrome, and from all that trouble that I used to cause myself. And I enjoy teaching people individually in groups in my facebook group on Instagram. And as Kristina mentioned, I am a recent author of the book of five minutes self discipline exercises, stay motivated, cultivate good habits, and achieve your goals. And I've also been enjoying working on building and creating my new podcast alongside Kristina. That podcast is called make time for success. And my goal there is to just share stories of people who have made transformations from self doubt, self criticism, delay and stress to their new, successful self. And that could be in the area of marketing, sales. Creativity, I'm just excited to bring in people that I know, people that I know have made the journey and done the work to fully express themselves. And I'm happy to be here and help anyone who is listening to this beautiful show today.

Kristina Stubblefield  3:52  
I tell you what, we have a lot of great stuff to cover. We didn't do much of a plan with this of those who know me. I don't always plan things out. But a quick story. So I was so fortunate to meet Christine, through a mutual coach in regards to podcasting. And there was someone that mentioned about having an accountability partner. And Christine reached out to me and I to tell the truth first had to look her up and said, Josh, my husband, Josh, I don't know if I should do this. Christine is a procrastination coach. And he got quite a laugh out of it. Because that is an area that I have had to really work on. But I thought you know what, I'm going to do this because I bet down the road. She can really help me with my own self in our business. And we have stayed in contact. We done homework together. We've actually done another course today. Together with a total different coach, and friends for life, I could tell that the first week or two, we were really there for each other. Now I could go on and on and on with some stories. But Christine has such a gift with really helping people making a difference, to start taking action. And I know you have some things that we talked about right before we started recording. And I'm just so happy that you would take time to come share this message with those that are listening. And I want to make sure everybody, make sure you subscribe to her podcasts and definitely visit her website. I'll give all that information in the show notes and when we're done. But Christine, where should we start? We've a lot of people that listen to me are wedding professionals. And they're either looking to get back some of their time, or maybe want to scale their business. So where do you suggest we start the message?

Dr. Christine Li  6:04  
Okay, I would say just riffing off what you just said that even you a very successful professional woman who is responsible in her life, and her business can fall into the procrastination cycle. And I think that's always the first place to start is really to know that this is such a common affliction and so understandable because in some ways, we all get overwhelmed. Especially in times, like we're living in right now with the pandemic and trying to keep everyone and everything afloat. Procrastination is just an obvious source of relief sometimes. So we get into these habits innocently. So my own model of helping people to start to get a grip on their procrastination so they can fix it and then move into productivity. I call it the four f system. And the F's are pretty easy to remember. The first one is this one called forgiveness, where we really have to say, in order to change my behavior, I'm going to need to let go of some of the grief of some of the self criticism of some of the sadness that I've been holding on to because I haven't been performing at my best because I've been procrastinating. And I think that emotional piece is the part that people who promote their planners or their new systems, or their productivity plans, forget, because we're all emotional beings, and we all get wrapped up in feeling ashamed, or like we're not good enough or that we aren't fast enough, or that we aren't talented enough, just because procrastination has come to visit us. So definitely the first step of any program is to forgive yourself, of what you think you've done wrong, or where you've been, or how stuck you've been. So that you can release that energy you can, you can start to change that energy for the better. And Christina's nodding here on screen, on video, because it really is such an important piece of any forward movement that is new.

Kristina Stubblefield  8:31  
And I'm going to tell you something, a few things are circling around in my brain. For wedding professionals, a lot of them that I've talked to had such plans when COVID hit, and there weren't, there weren't as many events happening, okay, at some point in time, there were no events happening. They had these plans of working on their business, they, they were going to do this and then we're going to do that. And COVID was very taxing mentally, physically, emotionally, especially for those in the wedding industry, because it really came to a screeching halt. For a lot of industries, wedding professionals and weddings and events being being that. And I think what you just mentioned, could make a big impact for people because as when I've just last week, even talked to a couple professionals were so down on themselves because a year ago, I was planning to do this and this or a year ago, I've had these three or four months that I could have been doing this. And gosh, it has been hard on a lot of people just to live day in and day out through COVID which we're still going through right now.

Dr. Christine Li  9:50  
Yes, thank you for adding that because I think in these times I need to add the letter A to the first step of forgiveness. And that's Is acceptance, that it's kind of a mindset trick to know that we can allow ourselves to accept what is going on, no matter how bad the situation is. It's when we fail to accept our current situations that all of a sudden we're locked in conflict. We're seeing the reality and then we're resisting it. We're saying, No, I can't let this happen. Why did this happen? Who am I to be stuck like this, and you keep that conflict going, and guess where all your time goes? It gets sucked away by the conflict by the tension by the feeling like you're exhausted, with no hope and feeling helpless all the time. And I think we all prefer to feel better. But we all sometimes get sucked in by the familiarity of feeling like, Oh, well, now we've just lost that hour, or we've lost that possibility or liquid COVID did to us. And so we need not only to forgive ourselves, but we also need to radically accept the circumstances that we've been given no matter what the circumstances are good or bad. And when you have that as a baseline, you're good to go, you're good to start making new moves.

Kristina Stubblefield  11:18  
What just came to my mind is, for those listeners who may not know, I actually had COVID, in January, and I it was rough, a lot more people have had a lot worse off, I'm very blessed and thankful to be in a much better position now than I was thank goodness. But what you just said, I have found myself, although is such a serious disease. I don't know exactly the correct word I just said disease, that that COVID is I couldn't help it, I got it. I still found myself thinking, those three weeks that Gosh, just lost out on those three weeks. And that's not getting me anywhere, absolutely nowhere, to even let that take up space in my mind, because there was nothing I could do, I had to focus on my health. Because I don't need We don't even need to mention there are people that aren't fortunate to make it to the other side of it. And I think as business owners, a lot of wedding professionals, it's just themselves, you have to allow yourself that space to recover from something and we it could be the flu, it could be COVID, you may have to have some kind of procedure that takes you out of your business for a little while. And getting caught up in that time and keep thinking of it as I lost that time. does nothing good for being productive in the current timeframe.

Dr. Christine Li  12:57  
Absolutely wiser words have never been said, I think that that is so smart to know that we can always think those thoughts. And we can forgive ourselves for having those thoughts. But we also have to really understand that those thoughts will not give us anything in terms of freedom in terms of energy in terms of

Kristina Stubblefield  13:23  
positivity, right? There's nothing positive to come from getting so hung up on that when the control is out of your hands.

Dr. Christine Li  13:31  
Yes.

Kristina Stubblefield  13:32  
Yeah, it really is.

Dr. Christine Li  13:33  
And I think that that interesting word of control, we're always wanting to feel like we've got control of everything. But we have to also accept that these things, some so much of our daily lives oftentimes are out of our control. And when you get a good balance of saying, I've got my time under control as best as I can, and I accept that life will throw me some interesting loop de loops every once in a while, then you really have that flexibility, you have control, but you also have flexibility that you can pivot that you can bounce back after three weeks, like I just saw Kristina do so beautifully. And know that you've got more time in the future, let's not blow the time we have in front of us, looking at the time that we've used behind us. So that is such a core principle of being more productive and allowing yourself more space and time to move forward to always be thinking positively about the time in front of you.

Kristina Stubblefield  14:44  
Absolutely. That is great. That one's great. And we're only on the first one. So we're only on the first one. We're only on the first one. So I'll go ahead I'll let you go.

Dr. Christine Li  14:53  
So once you've set that great baseline of forgiving yourself and freeing up that energy in a new way, then what tends to happen is you get the second F, which is fear. And that is when the kind of real time fear that is lurking in your brain starts to start bugging you and calling your name and making your thoughts about your future projects a little more complicated. So I'll use the example of our launching our podcasts. When you're launching a podcast, there are so many different fears that can crop up. Will I be able to work the tech correctly? Will I be able to get the guests that are interesting to my audience? Will I flub my sentences mid sentence? And it goes on and on and on. Really, the deepest one for me was, am I really worth this is what I have to say worth listening to. And even after 10 years, I'm still doubting myself. But guess what I pushed through that fear. So the second step of fear involves acknowledging that the fear exists, identifying it for what it is, and then pushing straight through even though you're still afraid. So it's not thinking that Oh, the fears just magically going to evaporate? And I'm sure in the wedding industry, there are many fears too. Am I going to be on time? Is this client going to be scary? How is this going to look when it's fully created, oftentimes, we're creating things out of out of just our imagination, and that we have to trust that what we have in our vision is going to be way more fun and way more exciting than our fears that are just telling us to hold on, hold our horses and hold ourselves back.

Kristina Stubblefield  16:52  
Okay, my goodness, a few different things are running, again, through my brain when you speak, one of the first things that you mentioned, you know, I've been in marketing for a long time, I've been very fortunate to be in marketing for a long time. And I've done speaking engagements, rooms with hundreds of people. I've taught classes in person with people, and I still found myself hesitant in regards to a podcast, who's gonna want to listen to me. Or they doesn't really matter what I say. And I went back to my own basics of how I like to deliver content, whether it be doing speaking engagements or teaching. I always like delivering small bite size, I always call it digestible content that a person can implement. I've attended so many things where I've taken notepad notepads, just of information, and then I've left wondering, okay, what was that first hour about for, you know, trying to circle back? And I was like, I really feel like, I've had so many people mentioned to me that things that I tell them and how I coach them, it really resonates with them just because of the way I do it. And I just tried to think, how many people could I be helping? How many people it could make an impact in their business? If I just did it, if if I just pushed there that fear that's lingering in the back of my mind. And just started doing what I love to do, just but it's just speaking into a microphone. It's not just speaking into a microphone. We both know that that's not the case. But if I just did it through podcasting, and although I've just in the start of this, although it's kind of still back there. I'm constantly focusing on, I'm going to be helping people, I'm going to be making a difference. It's still there. And I think what you mentioned is it's okay, it's there. Just keep pushing forward. And I think for a lot of wedding professionals, what you mentioned is they question what's going to happen at this event. Okay, I pulled off the last one. Now. What, you know, they're worried and scared and in fear of it going right. But what you mentioned is trusting in their instincts, trusting their the professional, no matter what happens, they're going to make it through it and that person is going to have an absolutely beautiful event.

Dr. Christine Li  19:36  
Yes. And that's what we're waiting for the celebration, but we're just being a little impatient in the process. And I think it's our jobs as the creative person, the creative source, the creative guide and leader to believe in our own abilities, that we shouldn't be waiting for other people. To say, Oh, that was fantastic. We need to constantly be believing in our abilities as we go, then we don't have to put the weight of needing validation on to the wedding, you can just be enjoying it. When it all rolls out, you don't have to be looking for Oh, well, did they think that they got their money's worth? Are they going to recommend me in the future, you're just going to be so proud of what you've pulled off. Because you challenge yourself, you've made it according to your vision, you made it big and you didn't hold yourself back. And that's something to be proud of.

Kristina Stubblefield  20:37  
When I first start working with someone, a wedding professional or an in other some kind of industry, and they are hesitant on what they provide, how they deliver it, is their pricing on point, these questions in their mind, one of the first things that I do, I pull up their testimonials in their reviews. That right there, if they need validation, it's right there. Because they were pleased with their work, they were pleased with their service or their products. It doesn't have to come for me, I'm highlighting it for them. And I've found myself, you know, sometimes we mentioned you know, I have to constantly work on procrastination myself. And although sometimes I joke around about it, it is really something serious I constantly try to work on. And a lot of times I allow overwhelmed to set in some. And I have a customer that was referred to us. They, I helped him with a simple list of things. They didn't have access to their domain, they didn't know how to get it. Literally, they knew nothing about the internet, someone years ago set it up form. Unfortunately, that person passed away. They left me a one minute and 32nd voicemail that I will not delete. Because that is the smallest thing. It wasn't a huge, big project, it was the smallest thing that had been blown off by other people. Some people wouldn't return their call. And they went on and on and on. And I found that there's days I've gotten overwhelmed. And there's been three or four times in the last a month or so I've just taken a moment to listen to that, to bring myself back centered. And say, We got this. This is what it's all about right here. It It doesn't matter about that big long to do list. We're gonna get through it. But right there is validation that you've got it, you can do it. And anyone out there, if you're in the wedding business, and most people that are in other industries, you probably have a review, a testimonial, a text, an email or something from someone that you can go back and visit if you need to hear that or you need to read that. And trust in that you're really good at what you do. And you have done things to help people.

Dr. Christine Li  23:22  
Yes, you are helping me to think about step number three, which is, again, an F and its focus. Because when you review past testimonials, you're reminded, oh, this is my purpose. This is why I've been doing this work in the first place. This is why I stick myself out there. This is why I deal with the tech and the domains and the coaches and all the details, because this is my focus. And to explain it a little bit further, I think we need to there's there's always going to be about 50 things that we want to handle in any one big project like a wedding if not more than 50. But in order to push our projects forward and push ourselves comfortably towards the end, we need to hone in and decide what part of the entire picture Am I going to focus on now. So it's not only reminding yourself of the reason why you're there what your purpose is. But it's also saying I'm going to do this segment now, even though the other things are still waiting for me to figure them out. I'm going to place my attention here. This is such a gift to your brain to your brilliant brain to do and so often we forget because we've been taught about the to do list and we drag it around with us and it gets longer and longer and longer. We forget that we have control over our attention of where we place our focus, our cell phones have challenged us in providing a constant CounterPoint. But you know what, we choose to go to the cell phone, we choose to move away from the cell phone. So make your choices, count, make them align with your focus and state your focus, write it out, if you need to put it on the post, it's put it on your bathroom mirror, whatever you need to do to remind yourself of what your goals are, what your focus is, we'll help you get through.

Kristina Stubblefield  25:41  
I tell you what, I love how you just said that. I have a question for you. We you mentioned to do list? Do you believe that your your biggest item or what's going to take the most brainpower? I have a question for you. Do you believe that if you have a big item on your to do list that requires a lot of brain power, or it's a bigger item than the others? Do you believe you should take care of that first? And just get it out of the way?

Dr. Christine Li  26:15  
That is a great question. And I've answered that probably every possible way possible. And I think that is because I believe that we're all the best judge of what we should do. At that moment, when we have that challenge. And some days, it's going to be much better for us to tackle the big elephant task. And other days, it's going to be much more advantageous for us to start really gently. And with the tiniest, most insignificant part of our to do list. And I think the reason I have that flexible answer is because I believe we have to pay attention to where our energy is, at all moments of productivity, that if our energy is really depleted, and we're tired, and we're feeling frustrated, but we still want to make a dent on our to do list, start small, nobody's judging, nobody's rating your performance here. You're the keeper of the show. So manage the show beautifully. Right. And you don't want to expend resources you don't have. So don't constantly be trying to tackle the big elephant, if you're just exhausted, or it's the end of the day, I do recommend that people try to do the more creative, more challenging work at the start of the day, and the first hours that you're up. Because I think we're fresh, we really are fresher than and I always say people don't go to the ER, the medical er in the morning because things just don't happen in the morning. They happen at night, they happen when we're exhausted. So do those good things, do that good work in the morning. And then you have the rest of the day that just feel accomplished, feel energized, feel like you haven't dragged around your to do list and done nothing with it. You get to feel celebrate Tory the rest of the day.

Kristina Stubblefield  28:22  
And I really like how you say you're the keeper, you're the one you already mentioned it, you get to decide what you do with, you get to decide what you do with your time, you get to decide what tasks you work on. But I really like how you highlighted about if it's creativity and brain power and stuff like that. It's your first hours of the day, I hear people say, especially when I work with people, like let's just say it's in regards to new content for their website, or, you know, it's stuff about them a lot of times that it keeps getting pushed down their to do list. And in till you make space for it. It's all it's always going to stay on that list. And so I really love how you say you're the one that gets to decide what you do. And yeah, I don't think there's a that focus is your decision, you get that you have the power over that. So I love that.

Dr. Christine Li  29:22  
I recently was procrastinating a tiny bit on posting something that just needed to be posted on social media. And although I knew I was stuck in a little bit of procrastination, I was not beating myself up and I just tucked away in my head. I'm going to get to this. I had the belief and it was very strong and powerful. That I would definitely not ignore it. I would not let it slide and that it was going to get done and just that's that's being a keeper that's being the keeper of my time and my responsibility to Myself, because would anybody have noticed that that one post didn't get posted? No. But it was meaningful to me. And it was meaningful to my mission and my purpose. So I did it. So there are all these little teeny tiny tricks that you can develop yourself, as you get better at this, you will start to define your style of productivity, that maybe it's really just mindset, and you just keep talking to yourself positively, throughout the day, maybe it's post it, maybe it's signing up for a program, maybe it's going to the gym a little bit more, whatever works for you, you want to keep in your system, keep in your bag of tricks, because there are going to be those days, where you don't want to post on social media for some weird reason. And it's going to be okay.

Kristina Stubblefield  30:50  
And I love what you say about your productivity, your version of productivity. So many times I think people try to fit in these certain boxes. You know, there's so many different classes you can take out there on this system, that system and other system. But I think you've got to allow yourself a little bit of room to figure out, how do you tick, how do you work, it kind of has to be crafted together. And I've found that a lot of times I've signed up for this, and I've signed up for that. And I have this software and that software. And well, I want to use a little part of this. And I want to use a little part of that. And you know, I want my own solution. And it is taken me, please don't ask my husband, how many CRM systems we went through. But it has taken me a little bit of time to see what works best for us. And what works best for us, as far as software or systems might not be exactly what the next person. So I love what you mentioned about your version, you know, however it's best for you.

Dr. Christine Li  31:56  
Yes, and that's also an essential component of productivity is, you know, all that acceptance and all that knowledge about yourself, but then deploying it in a way that works for you as well. Right? If it takes too much time, you're going to get frustrated with it, if a system doesn't work, the way your brain tends to work, you're going to get frustrated with it. And then frustration is not a vibration that we really want to stick with so much. So then we're gonna leave that tech. But if you don't take the time to replace it with something that does work for you, then you're, then you're just procrastinating again. So we just have to keep everything light, I think keep everything fun, and keep our resources flowing, that we have to remind ourselves there's always an answer. That's, that's a good tip. Also, to know that even if we're feeling frustrated with something, that there's an easier way that somebody might be able to help us with or some new piece of technology that could do this while we're sleeping. And we're fortunate to be living in those times where really the tech is that bountiful. And the resources that we have online, and the support that we can connect with is so incredible. So let's not be the the one factor that is holding that productivity back. Okay.

Kristina Stubblefield  33:23  
And I'm crying Oh, oh, I'm sorry. Um, you know, one thing, I'll plug in there. A lot of times people come to me and they're so frustrated, because they've tried to make something work, or they've got this going on and that going on, and they're got their Nope, that it's different for every circumstance. But they're just saying, help, because they're spending 10 times the amount of time on something, because they've gotten themselves so worked up that they just need a solution that is around what they're trying to do. And I love that part of being able to provide those solutions, that's the best answer for them. But that frustration part that you really hit on, it can really take over. And then productivity is out the productivity, sales revenue, it's all out the window. If you don't find a way through it, the frustration piece so many times people come to me and they are past frustrated. And it's really I enjoy being able to help ease some of that stress and overwhelm because there are tools and their software and systems. But some of it a lot of times goes back to the mindset of it. And it's all the stuff you're talking about. Until you completely embrace some of that. It doesn't matter how great the software is, it doesn't matter how many autumns nations and things you have in place, because you have this lingering stuff. So I'm so glad you're focusing on this, there's a whole lot more to it than just a checklist that are a to do list that you can enter on your phone that syncs to your computer. Because at the end of the day, that's not doing it for you. That's just making it more visible for you. And sometimes, that makes it a whole lot more stress on a person. So, Christine, this is awesome. Are you ready to keep going,

Dr. Christine Li  35:31  
I'm ready to keep going. Thank Okay, for mentioning checklists, which I do love. We do love our checklists. But the final F is flow. And by flow, I mean consistency. I just needed an another F word. But consistency allows us to build on our skills at allows us to see the rewards, it allows us to see what we're really made of. And I think we can have brilliant ideas and just not see them implemented or even started. And when we take our brilliant ideas are even our mediocre ideas, and we see them through to their full completion. And we invest our time, our energy, our brainpower, and our resources into these good ideas on a day to day basis. That's where you start the real productivity cycle. So instead of a procrastination cycle, you get addicted to seeing the fruits of your labor to seeing the impact that you have to seeing the podcast episodes roll out to seeing the wedding's go off one by one with such beauty and joy. It's because you've been consistent, it's because you showed up, it's because you didn't attack yourself, when something went wrong, you are able to not personalize mistakes that you were able to say, Oh, that was not a great choice. Let's do better next time. And you don't sink five hours crying in the bathroom, because something didn't go correctly, you just decided, oh, that was not a great decision. Let's avoid that next time. Let's move on what else needs to get done, so that you're really becoming the master of not only your time, but your emotions, and your experience and the entire flow of your business. And I promise you and Christina promises you too, I'm sure that this is within your power to create.

Kristina Stubblefield  37:45  
Well, a few things there. First of all, anytime people come to me and say, I know what you're going to tell me, I need to be consistent. In especially a lot of times they're talking about social media post, or things like that. I really try to break it down into consistency overall. And that's exactly what you're talking about. Is I know I keep coming back to software processes or things like that, but you have to see them through, you have to utilize them in order for them to work for you. And consistencies across the board is showing up for your business, whatever that means returning phone calls, returning emails, not letting it pile up. You've got to show up and be consistent. The other thing too, is seeing the outcome. Seeing the other side, what you said is becoming addicted to that. And we've talked about this before, maybe it's getting a little bit of time back to be able to spend with your family. Or maybe you want to grow your business or scale your business. Maybe it's something you want to work on in the future. And everything you've said is you get to make the decision. It's your time, whatever you have put in place and whatever you're seeing through at the end of the day, you're going to be freeing up some time that you have control over. And that I think so many people are striving for that. Especially wedding professionals, but it's putting the pieces together. And this is awesome. Christine, like this is touching on so many points. And I always hate just constantly talking about COVID but COVID changed everyone. And I feel like it's made people think differently. I think it's made them react differently or maybe not react as much and I feel like people are really trying to get some kind of grasp on their time, especially if they own their own business. Because you just never know what this world is going to bring us. And being able to have that time with whatever you want to do with it. take on more weddings, spend time with your family. When you get to be the decider of that, that's pretty powerful.

Dr. Christine Li  40:31  
I absolutely agree. Because that has been my life's experience, my biggest transformation was from being a massive procrastinator to being mostly productive. And what it's really given me is comfort in my heart, that I don't have to go through the entire day feeling panicked, and end the day feeling like I can't sleep. That's a really great gift I've been able to figure out for myself, and one that I think people might be missing without knowing it, that they might be thinking, Oh, I just am an anxious person. And I don't sleep that Well, well, maybe it's actually related to how you're managing or not managing your time and responsibilities and that that rhythm of the day. And all it can take is maybe just do one of the apps don't do the entire system even. But implement something that can improve your time management by just a few percentage points. And see how much time you end up feeling like you have at the end of the day, how much you feel like you've been able to breathe better. At the end of the day, I promise you it's worth it, it's very much worth the investment.

Kristina Stubblefield  41:48  
Well, and especially, you know, last year's word I felt like was pivoting. Especially for people that were trying to pivot as fast as they could all of these F's apply, and maybe a few others that we're not talking about in this episode. But in all honesty, all of the things that go along with pivoting your business, you know, for whatever reason you needed to pivot, we all know, you know, COVID was a big factor in that. But trying to keep your doors open, trying to keep your business going things like that. I mean, gosh, fear, trying to focus all of these F's hit home, especially in pivoting and being able to implement these few items that you went over, really seems that it will work well with time management. There's no way it can't, right. Right, just by just by implementing. And I'm so glad you said it like that, because that's what I tell people are these episodes, I want to you to be able to take something from these episodes and implement immediately in your business. And Christine, I want to let you be able to kind of close this out. But one thing that I've taken away from this is, it's okay to work on this. It's a work in progress. There's no magic tool that just fixes this for everyone. It's okay to work on these F's to get yourself to some kind of goal that you're working towards. I think all of us out there. This is one of these all of these have lied to us. And that's okay. We're all human. And we need to leave ourselves space to know, we're going to get through it. And we're going to be better once we do.

Dr. Christine Li  43:51  
And that you're worth it. You're really worth this effort.

Kristina Stubblefield  43:56  
Absolutely. Christine, you got to promise me, we will come back for some kind of part two down the road. I tell you, we know we can talk for hours. But since I did say these were bite sized and digestible episodes, I'm going to let you close it out. I want people to know how they can connect with you how they can find out information on your book, I want to make sure that they know how they can subscribe to your podcast that i know i know is on every platform that it can be on. And it is so worth the listen. And the way Christine delivers our episodes as well as the great guests that she has on there. So Christine, tell them all of the good information.

Dr. Christine Li  44:42  
I will and first of all I want to say I of course promised that I will be happy to come back on your show. And I know that you're going to be on my show before too long. So we have to set a date for that. And I want to invite all the listeners all of your listeners, your lovely listeners. To follow me, probably the best place would be my website, procrastination coach.com that will lead you to the book, it will also lead you to the podcast. And I would say the second spot where I tend to show up the most is on Instagram, where all people who love beauty and fun memes and joy hang out. I am procrastination coach there. And I do a lot of Instagram stories, giving out tips like I've just given you today. And I just like to stay connected with people and I try to help whoever is interested.

Kristina Stubblefield  45:42  
Well, Christine, I think all of the information in this is definitely going to be valuable, especially to those in the wedding industry. But first and foremost, you jumped at the opportunity when I asked you about coming on here to be a guest. And that means the world to me, as well as our friendship. I know it's not going anywhere, anytime soon, forever in my book. But thank you for sharing your knowledge, but also some helpful tips that people can really use immediately. And thank you for allowing them to connect with you. Please make sure you check out Christine, Dr. Christine Lee, just to be professional, and make sure that you visit our social media, we're gonna put some pictures on there, I'm going to get Christine to send me a few different things that I can share on our own social media. And if you want to know more information about her though, it will be in the show notes. as well. She's listed as a guest on our website at genius marketing solutions, podcast.com. It I would love to hear your feedback about this episode, you can always go to our website, or you can direct message me on social media. Or you can send me an email, I can't wait to see things that you have to say about this episode. If you have any topics that you would like to hear on an upcoming episode, please just take time to send me a message. There's plenty avenues to do it. So thank you for tuning in. Christine, thank you so much. I really appreciate it. I know we'll be in contact soon. But on behalf of all my listeners, thank you for your time, and your generous sharing of your knowledge. I really appreciate it.

Dr. Christine Li  47:34  
Well thank you, Christina. It's been a pleasure. You are a delight of a host I wish you all the best for this podcast. And to all your listeners. I wish you all the best in your businesses and in your lives.

Kristina Stubblefield  47:46  
Thank you very much for tuning in. Until next time be well. Thank you for tuning in to this episode of genius marketing solutions. If you would like to get notified of upcoming episodes, make sure to click the subscribe button on your favorite podcast platform. We welcome any feedback from topic ideas to questions you may have. You can visit our website for previous episodes or to send us a message visit genius Marketing Solutions podcast.com

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Dr. Christine Li

Clinical Psychologist, Author & Procrastination Coach

Dr. Christine Li is a clinical psychologist in private practice in New York City and is also known for her work as the “Procrastination Coach” online. Her Procrastination Coach blog is one of the top blogs in the world on the topic of procrastination. She has helped thousands overcome the procrastination habit and get crystal clear on what needs to be done, so they can get into action fast and achieve their goals. Dr. Li’s new book, 5-Minute Self-Discipline Exercises: Stay Motivated, Cultivate Good Habits, and Achieve Your Goals, is a compilation of her best strategies set inside a highly-engaging and useful workbook format. Listen to Dr. Li’s brand new podcast Make Time for Success for inspiration for creating a life of joy, productivity, and abundance.